Mental wounds from meetings
Receive healing for joyful meeting
Be open, because meetings do not oblige you to anything.
The main thing
Now about the main thing. When meeting, be yourself, be open, natural, but this does not mean that you can behave as you please. Nowadays, I started to observe people that they began to look more like a chameleon, like some actors who play different roles in different places. Suppose a person came to work and puts on a mask and behaves in a certain way. He leaves work, goes to the store, puts on a mask and now a completely different person, then he goes home and then a completely different person, although there is no smell of personality there at all.
When meeting. Don’t lose your personality by conforming to society.
A person is lost, he has dissolved in society and there is no personal core. Therefore, I wish you to be yourself, yes it is worth a lot, but it’s worth it. When you are at one with yourself, then you will be able to understand your partner and your children all the more. Only by being a sane person will you be able to lead your family with you into a happy family life. In order for you to have a happy family life, you must be self-sufficient. Be natural, be yourself. Because a child looking at you can get lost and not understand: who is my mother or actress in front of me now? and what should I do now? be yourself or play some role? Because children are your reflection.
When meeting. Closer to the point.
The next thing I would like to talk about is prejudice. When you meet, leave all your templates with your stereotypes about people. I remember one conversation when women and young girls talked about that. What do they pay attention to when they first meet? One said that the first thing she notices when meeting someone is shoes. Whether it is cleaned or not and how it is cleaned. In her opinion, if the shoes do not shine, then this man is most likely a lazy person or a slob. Another one pays attention to her nails when we meet her. If there is dirt under his nails, then most likely he is dirty. Then how he stands, how the other sits, how he talks, and so on and so forth. Why do people push themselves and others into boundaries? Because it’s all nonsense.
When you meet, throw away all prejudices
I was working in one organization when my boss came to work with dirty shoes. He came to work wearing dirty shoes for one reason. They were doing renovations in the yard, and when we came to work, our shoes were always dirty. I have a friend who is just obsessed with perfectionism. He is an avid gardener. Everything in his garden is perfectly arranged, and his house is always perfectly clean. It is unlikely that anyone would say that he is dirty, although sometimes he has dirt on his nails. One young man said that when meeting someone he pays attention to her breasts, simply in his opinion: if she has large breasts, then the children will be healthy. What if it’s silicone? Someone said he was looking at curvy. If his girlfriend looks appetizing, then he will feel comfortable.
When you meet, don’t let them evaluate you as a commodity.
Thus, I understand that people have lost the very essence of relationships. Perceiving people as things and identifying with that thing. They drive themselves and others into boundaries. They present themselves as a product. I have heard that even in some corporate organizations, during the interview they pay attention to whether she is wearing makeup or not. Whether she knows how to use cosmetics or not. If she doesn’t wear makeup and doesn’t take care of herself, then she’s lazy. People have reached the point of absurdity, believing that if a young man is overweight, then he is lazy. Personally, I think that all these stereotypes are stupid and I think that many will agree with me. That we must accept ourselves and others as they are.
Don’t build expectations and don’t live in illusions.
Get rid of your stereotypes and patterns. See how beautiful the world is with its different colors and people. Dissimilar and similar to each other. And this will help you in the future perceive your spouse as he is. If he doesn’t look like your father, or mother, or uncle, or aunt. Don’t force yourself and your spouse, much less your children, to set boundaries. Because children are not chosen, they are born as they are. Heaven has given you this heavenly gift. So that you love and raise in the right direction. Remember that in this world everything is natural and nothing happens by chance. Whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. And whether you build your happy family life or not, everything depends on you. And may God bless you.
P.S:
As you want people to do to you, so do you, for this is the law and the prophets.
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